What others have thought and done to us in the past can has an enormous influence on our choices.

What others have thought and done to us in the past can has an enormous influence on our choices. In fact, it has a massive influence on our choices.Perhaps we just re-tread others old choices.




And – our choices are ultimately what determine the outcome of our lives. One of the key insights that helped us turn our lives around was realising that we need to become more aware of the pre-ordained choices and the consequences of the choices we were making.



Every choice has a consequence. And many times we are not aware of the staggering consequences of all the choices we have and are making.



Perhaps one of the most disempowering choices we can make is to allow what others think about us to define us. It doesn’t matter if they are praising us or blaming us – what they think about you doesn’t define you. If anything, it adds insight into who they are.



Time after time, we hear stories of people who come to our webinars, retreats and meditation sessions who say, “It’s time to choose to connect to my child within.”



And each time they say it, it feels like a war torn veteran has finally come home. All the years and years that they’ve allowed other people to define them have finally produced enough disappointment that they decided now is the right time to change their life.



Our hope is that it doesn’t have to get bad before we change. Our hope is that we can start to change this now.



Here are some questions:



Where in our life did you allow other people to define our choices?



Who are the people we allow to define our choices?



Why is what this person or people think about us more important than what we think about us?



What has allowing this person or people to define our choices cost us up to this point?




 If it didn’t matter what these people thought and we got to decide, what new choices would we make now?


This question sequence is very powerful. See if you can take a moment and answer them completely. Really try to get clear on the answers. The truth is that no one knows what’s best for you, but your freed child within. Other people might have good ideas and intentions, but they don’t have to live with the consequences of our choices – we do.

So – what new choices are we going to make today or can we make new choices until we have resolved those that were made for us in the past...are our choices really new or just re-treads from our ancient past?

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